A Glass of Kink Champagne
And other delicious things to serve in the bedroom
There are variety of ways to get things heated in the bedroom to avoid the chance sex will feel routine. Although I am with someone who will try anything at least once, I’m not always as liberated. I know the main reason is due to my insecurities; however, I am far better than I was years ago. Fortunately, my husband always encourages me to explore and has never made me feel less than sexy. That type of encouragement definitely helps with my sexual self-esteem. So does communication, so I thought I’d share my various experiences with the kinky side of sex; as well as touch on what practicing BDSM means.
Kink: an activity or behavior that someone enjoys that exists outside of traditional sex, e.g. BDSM, Swinging, Role-Play, etc.
Traditional sex? More on that in a bit.
To get back to my lack of exploration, there are times I simply don’t want to try whatever kink-de-jour that’s being served. And that’s okay… sometimes. The goal as a couple is to try new things to keep the sex life thrilling. I know there has to be that willingness to explore with your partner, especially if they’re doing the asking. This is part of a loving, healthy sexual relationship. I have to analyze why I don’t always want to try something new. I think it’s simply because it doesn’t immediately bring about any libido-inducing excitement. But, really, how do I know if I don’t try?
I know one of my husband’s biggest frustrations is that I’m not the one proactive in initiating something new. My fantasies are fairly consistent and a sure thing for climax, so I don’t necessarily think of something innovative to explore. When I was an OnlyFans creator, there was no shortage of role-play requests from fans that appealed to their fantasies. And for a fee, I provided a ten-minute video of me doing them. I was a college professor, librarian, a prude neighbor, a dominatrix, a stressed wife who chewed and popped her gum, among many other characters. The problem was when I was done with the video, the outfit and sexy attitude was put away. What I should have done is use every opportunity to engage in sexy role-play with my husband. I already know that anything I do will turn him on but I didn’t take advantage of it.