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Do We Have To Hear The Kissing Part?
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Do We Have To Hear The Kissing Part?

A Tale of Emotional Entanglement, Part 2

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Jul 01, 2024
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The Princess Bride portrays true love's kiss as a powerful and transformative force that can overcome any obstacle. It's a magical moment that can transcend time and space to unite two souls who are destined to be together. At the time of my first kiss with Max, it wasn’t transformative and powerful—but, it did unite two souls who were unhappy with their respective marriages.

I wasn’t thinking Max was my soulmate or my true love at the time. I’m not sure I believed in those things. The soulmate concept implies you’re powerless when finding love, as if it’s out of your control and dependent on a predestined connection. I wasn’t in the mindset that Max was my destiny. Like with all my other affairs, I went into this relationship due to sexual attraction. However, that wasn’t how things were progressing with us. We were sharing the frustrations of our lives and offering a sympathetic ear. That in itself intensified our connection, leading to a dependence on one another’s support.

As time went on, our communication increased. Throughout the day, we exchanged random text messages just to say hello. Come nighttime, our connection deepened as we chatted using Yahoo Messenger. Initially, our conversations were light-hearted, filled with anecdotes from our lives. But as time went on, our discussions became more personal, talking about our children and the intricate details of our family histories. I was sharing all the reasons for my unhappy marriage, including my husband’s child with another woman. We never really discussed anything sexual or the possibilities of sex between us. However, that didn’t stop my fantasies of wanting it to happen in the near future.

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