In the bad old days, during my first marriage, the issue was always more about my behavior rather than my ex-husband’s. While reading my personal stories of infidelity, one may conclude it’s no surprise I was considered the problem in the relationship. His concept of marriage was a woman has her place as the wife: she is compliant, she takes care of the home, makes the meals, and is allowed to have her own career until it’s time to have a family. The man is to work and provide, especially when children are brought into the mix. I wasn’t living up to his expectations, or mine for that matter.
I don’t recall if it was before or after the wedding, but I did agree I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. I felt it was important during the early development stage of my child’s life. At the end of Part Two of this story, I was pregnant—and just in case anyone might doubt me given my affair with Pedro—it was my husband’s. He really pushed to start a family. As it turns out, he wasn’t ready to uphold his responsibility of being the sole provider. He started having an affair two months after we told our family I was pregnant.
Here’s the rest of the story where my affair with Pedro ends, but it’s my ex-husband who forever changed the dynamic of our relationship.